So my Mother's Day card threw me off with respect to my son's perception of me. Threw me off by miles. I've always aspired to be a good female role model for him (always reprimanding him for saying things like "girls can't play fire-fighters, they can pretend to be princesses"; or reiterating to him that the girls in his taekwando class are good a him). Of course, in return, I was hoping that he sees me as a strong and smart woman. That he sees me as someone who "dresses up prettily" came as a shock :)
We are very conscious of not speaking of others' appearances/ clothes or even our own, in K's presence. Where in gods name has he then ended up with this perception of "pretty dresser" being such a positive??!
Fathers have an unfair advantage in being perceived as "strong". I probably do as much heavy lifting around the house (and look fitter) but K holds on to the perception that his dad is this tower of power & strength!! Hmmph!
1 comment:
Awww... Don't let that take away from anything you are or do.
I sometimes think we are being too critical in our views of gender equality. If we saw a well dressed man who looked dapper, we wouldn't think of strength as the first adjective, so why would we begrudge someone who saw that in us?
I think the new generation of women don't need to look masculine or ugly to be viewed as strong. We can be both.
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